Incongruence

Definition

Incongruence refers to a state of discrepancy between an individual's self-concept (how they perceive themselves) and their actual experiences. It occurs when there is a mismatch between one's ideal self (who they would like to be) and their real self (who they actually are).

Related terms

Self-concept:

The collection of beliefs, perceptions, thoughts, and feelings an individual has about themselves.

Ideal self: The image or vision of oneself that represents who an individual wants to become or what they aspire to be.

Real self: The actual characteristics, traits, and behaviors that an individual possesses.